Today I want to talk to my bigger kids. Now, I don’t care if you are as big as a blimp as long as you’re healthy. And yes, it’s possible to be overweight and healthy. Don’t believe me? That’s okay; I’ve included references at the bottom of this post that are causing science to reexamine the relationship between weight and health.
If you’re chubby, feeling good and have loads of energy that’s good. However, make sure you are also fit because only then can you avoid the lion’s share of health problems that are currently associated with excess weight such as type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure and so on.
If you find your weight moving you in an unhealthy direction or if you seem to lack energy or don’t feel quite as well as you should, it’s time to take action.
Step 1. Get a checkup
The purpose is to find out how you’re doing health wise and identify any medical reasons for your weight gain such as thyroid problems or a possible relationship between prescribed medications and your weight. Be sure and mention to your physician if you are having problems with hunger issues. It’s difficult if not impossible to lose weight if you’re hungry all the time.
Step 2. Get your head screwed on right
First, decide you want to be a healthy weight, whatever that might be for you. Just because you live in a culture promoting a lean body doesn’t mean a lean body is right for you. Now, a fit body, that’s something else altogether and is important regardless of your culture. So, quit beating yourself up because you don’t look like an emaciated model on the front of Vogue or a muscle bound dude on the cover of Flex.
Next, know you will do it. Don’t even let the words, “Maybe I can do it” cross your mind. Instead, see yourself healthy and full of energy. Let that be your destination. If you have trouble visualizing the new you, read books that will keep you on the right mental track. Watch videos that will keep you encouraged. Make new friends that have gotten to where you want to be. Remember, you are the author of your body’s destiny. You are 100% in control. Remember, how you behave comes out of your thoughts and beliefs. If your thoughts and beliefs have taken you in a wrong direction, you can change them.
Step 3. Set a healthy weight goal
By healthy weight goal, I mean the ideal weight you need to achieve in order to get fit. If you have trouble moving to a standing position from the couch, it will be more difficult for you (but not impossible) to embark on an all out. Start from where you are and what you can do. Mama wants you healthy and full of energy not injured or dead.
If you can afford it, visit a gym with trainers experienced in working with obese folks. If not, purchase a video to follow that offers low impact fitness. The video you choose will depend on a number of factors including your weight, your age and your present fitness level. If you choose a program too difficult or advanced, you’re setting yourself up for failure. So, don’t do that.
I use a personal trainer, but if I didn’t, I would buy a video. To know which one to try, I’d go to Amazon, type “fitness videos” in the search, and begin the search for the best video for me. It’s important to read the one, two, and three star reviews, particularly if you want a program that won’t cause you injury. In addition to videos some exercises are great for most anyone. For instance, swimming and water aerobics are great. Bicycling is good. Working out with weights when done right is also good.
Step 4. Put some romance in your life
If you already have a significant other in your life, re-spark the romance. It’s good for you and your significant other. Go have fun and show that person how important they are to you.
Oh and just in case you don’t currently have a significant other and have that sinking feeling that being overweight or obese is going to get in the way of your love life, think again. I’ve included a couple of resources to ease your fears of that. If you look like a slob, act like a slob and dress like a slob, you aren’t going to attract cool partners. That’s the big takeaway and it doesn’t have squat to do with your weight.
For my girls:
http://www.lardbiscuit.com/lard/truefa.html
For my boys:
Avoid women whose core desire is to feed you in order to make you fatter. Instead go for the ones who want to see you fitter. Also, just because you’re one of my big boys doesn’t mean you should have to pay for a woman’s affection. Get fit, get confident and you’ll find the perfect girl that’s just right for you. I personally know a couple who fits this description. He’s one of my short fat kids. His mate is lean, beautiful and adores him. I’ve included a couple of comments here to encourage my big boys.
These came from: http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Love-Big-Fat-Men/3930173
I am not obese , but i am chubby and i don’t think women are as turned off by chubby guys as some of you think. I have had alot more relationships than some of my skinny or muscular friends and i think your personality shines through in the end. I have been with a women for two years now , she is curvy and we love each other for who we are and find each other very attractive. Don’t get discouraged by what people might say to you , society tends to try and marginalise people who are not what is percieved as normal , but just be yourself , be who you want to be , and you will find the right woman/man for you.
I am located in Upstate NY and am looking for a bigger guy around the area. If travel is an option I am pretty flexible. I have a good job and am just looking for a bigger guy to spend my time with and to hopefully start a relationship with.
Okay, there you have it kids. Quit worrying about your weight and start focusing on being healthy, fit and full of energy. I’m interested in your stories and what you have to say. Be sure and comment down below.
Further reading:
http://www.obesitymyths.com/myth4.1.htm
